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My brother is asking me what's going on? Why am I not going to all the meetings why am I not active in the mistety he can tell I'm disconnected and I'm not into it, what do I say?! What can I say to...
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"What can I say to help his curiosity but not totally get myself dfed or have my family hate me!?" Oh, honey...someone may have a more specific answer than I do, but you know that no one can guarantee...
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Hey Mytruth, There's no easy answers so early in the process. Vague answers are best, like feeling weak , needing time, etc. ( Just never use the word "doubt") I also grew up in the org and I have had...
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Yep - the less you can get away with saying the better!! At least until you are ready for the fall-out!! As Cangie says just as long as you keep your feelings hidden, you will get pestered like...
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Well after I finally shut my brother up, my mom started texting me..... She got so angry and mean, I couldn't believe I was actually on the other side of this! I've heard my mom flip like that but...
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I just told her and my brother that if family is important to them they need to see the good in eachother and stop being so negative when I'm around, I wanna be close but hearing about my spiritually...
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I wanna be close but hearing about my spiritually weak state isn't going to make me wanna hang with them it pushes me away,I think that was a very good reply. Keep repeating it whenever the topic...
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Yeah I hope I don't have to be THAT distant, but I do think me and my family need space, I can't wait till I move out! Hopefully this summer at some point
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When I was getting ready to fade, I had to prepare myself for the possibility that my JW family would be hostile or would shun me. I didn't want that, but I knew there was a good chance of it. It...
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You're in a tough spot. The way I read it you want to live life on your terms. [Imagine such a thing!] Most of the families of the human race expect their children grow up to do just that but NOT JWs....
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I just said I don't want to do it anymore....my mother accepted that. You can't be in the truth for anyone else except yourself, it's between you and Jehovah alone. I'm not D/F'd, I still have a good...
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I found it hard to fade as well. Eventually, the best thing I could come up with was by just saying I didn't believe in any God... Not by saying "I disagree with the Org". As soon as you pour doubt on...
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One more thought...(if it helps) JWs encourage prospective converts to their way of thinking by applying this verse: (Where is it?) Paul told the world that "when I was a kid I thought like one but as...
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My ...... being vague and saying things like 'I have a few things to work through by myself right now, I'll let you know if I need help' may give you some much needed breathing space. With regards to...
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We were fine for a few days and she keeps asking me and my boyfriend about going to the zoo and getting our family's together (probably a bad time) haha and then Monday she freaked again..... I think...
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I am sorry "mytruth" that you are having such a hard time of it with your family. Fading is a tough thing to do. I just stopped going to meetings and everything else. A couple of elders stopped by...
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My truth, I've been reading your posts, but have been really busy and haven't had a lot of time to respond back. I can really relate to your posts. I have taken the route of always being very vague...
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If I can contribute anything to the conversation, I'll just say that for those who are considering the "fade away" approach (I'm assuming this means disassociating without actually going through a...
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It's the hot/cold approach Mytruth ...... same thing happened to me but I kept a level head, didn't hang around when talk headed into religious areas ...... and eventually I won by simply being...
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I agree with the others, be careful what you say, say you need time to yourself, something like that. And tell them you'll let them know if you want any help. Hope that works at least until you can...
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